I answer this question with the caveat that my children are nowhere near their teenage years yet. Having said that, I think most major life decisions that 17-year-olds are trying to make deserve discussion. While they're quite sure of their maturity and good choices, most of us remember that we weren't quite as smart as we thought back then. A life in the military, while a great choice for many, should be looked at very carefully. Having the teen talk to people in the military (not just recruiters) to get an accurate idea of what life is like would be ideal. Also, the teen should be highly encouraged to do whatever is necessary to get the high school diploma! Options in the military and life in general will be severely limited without one.

Laura is right. But sometimes, high school students are quite immature, and a stint in the service just might be the plan to help them grow up? That way, they can use benefits of serving (GI Bill, etc.) to pay for some of that expensive college tuition later on. That works for some who have a plan. Parents should very much be part of the discussion, and the decision.

Any time a child wants to put himself or herself in a position to kill or be killed, further discussion is definitely in order. It's nice to think that a stint in the military "just might be the plan to help them grow up," but missing limbs and PTSD are a high price to pay for that possibility. A peace-time military is one thing, but we're fighting in a number of spots right now, so joining the military is a very risky choice.

Absolutely. This is a major life changer. I would definately negotiate.

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As I walk through airports and see young men and women in military uniforms, I often think...they look like babies! Often recruits are right out of high school. College isn't for everyone, and the military is a good alternative for some high school graduates. Joining the military isn't a decision that should be taken lightly. I have to say, as a strong supporter of our service people, I would be very proud if I had a son who joined the army. Protecting America's freedom and defending the defenseless around the world are highly honorable endeavors.

Martha, It is very hard for the current generation of young people to appreciate the risks and honorable service our volunteers are giving. We don't live in the age of World War II where nearly everyone answered the call to duty. Those who volunteer are going back to Afghanistan and Iraq time and again.